June 2005

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The Theory of Attraction: How To Attract What You Want in Your Life

“For mind is the builder and that which we think upon may become crimes or miracles.
For thoughts are things and as their currents run through the environs of an entity’s experience
these become barriers or steppingstones, dependent upon the manner in which these are laid as it were.”
Edgar Cayce


The Theory of Attraction: How To Attract What You Want in Your Life

Sometimes we don’t recognize how much our thoughts affect our lives. I notice that when my clients are stuck, it’s because they tend to focus on what they don’t want, instead of what they do want. Their thoughts lead them to discouragement and depression before they can take any action. The “Theory of Attraction,” as described in the books by Grabhorn and Hicks,(listed below) says that “like attracts like.” So if you focus on what you don’t have: no job, no career satisfaction,or no money, you get more of the same. Lack attracts lack.

How can you change this pattern? The first step is to decide what you want. If you really don’t know, you can focus on more “big picture” issues. What would your life look like if you had what you want? If you notice your thoughts focusing on what you don’t want, immediately shift your focus to the specifics of what you do want, with as much detail as possible. For example, if you need more money, instead of focusing on the lack of money, focus on the feeling of abundance. Picture yourself taking that lavish European vacation, or living in your remodeled house. Saying affirmations is not enough. You must believe on a feeling level, and act as if it were already there.

If you want a better career, focus on what it is you want in that career, not what you don’t want. If you want flexibility and intellectual stimulation, focus on the kind of job that will provide you with flexibility. Design the life you have with that job flexibility, as if you already had it.

Visualizing or saying affirmations is not enough. If you think you want a job that pays more, but underneath you doubt that you will ever get that job, or that you don’t deserve it, then you probably won’t get it. The affect and the feelings have to be in alignment. If you say “I want to make more money,” but the next thought is about how you can’t take that vacation because of lack of money, then it won’t work. You have to focus your thoughts on feelings of abundance.

Take Inspired Action

The next step is to take inspired action. If the action does not feel right, then it probably isn’t. If you have a tendency to procrastinate, this doesn’t mean that you do only what you “feel” like doing, so you need to make that distinction.

Pay attention. What were you doing when things were going right for you?

Do you remember when you were “in the flow” and everything just sort of came to you?

If you pay attention to your thoughts, the rest will come. And then you can attract what you want in your life.

I have a variety of tools that I use with clients throughout the career coaching process to help them determine what they want, and then develop a plan to get there. These include standardized career tests taken on-line as well as exercises I have developed myself. Please contact me for more information regarding my career coaching program.


Recommended Books

Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting: The Astonishing Power of Feelings by Lynn Grabhorn

Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks